So. *cough* It’s apparently Bisexual Awareness Week.
What does that mean? Well, to me, that means that people get that there are straight preferences, and get that there are gay preferences, but there are still a lot of people who go through life with a part of themselves in perpetual invisibility. This needs awareness.
To use myself as an example, when I am in a relationship with a guy, I ‘am straight’ to the people around me. When I am in a relationship with a woman, I ‘am gay’ to the people around me. These labels don’t really fit who I am (especially to you folks who really know me!)
I just don’t have a preference based on genitals. That’s it. My preferences are for people who are funny, clever, kind, and into helping the world. I find some men really attractive and others really unattractive, and some women really attractive and others really unattractive. That’s it.
I am not a lesbian, and I am not a straight person. I also don’t really use the word ‘bisexual’ because to me attraction is about so much more than just sex. Unfortunately that sometimes makes me, my identity, confusing and invisible. (But I really like the word lesbian. lesbian. lesbian. hehe)
I am really lucky to be able to ‘pass’ as straight to avoid the harassment and discrimination of ‘being gay’. Of course. But none of my relationships, all of which I have learned from and value in certain ways, were inauthentic or less important because of the genitals of that person. I’ve loved lots of different people in lots of different ways and I am happy about that. :)
It’s okay to be both! It’s okay to try new things, to change your mind, to be free and fluid and unconstrained by what other people think is the ‘right way’ to have relationships!
Sending out love to all my friends queering it up and exploring, and friends who support my travels in love-love-love!